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Beauty, Beliefs and Bendiness

barbara bates • Feb 15, 2021
This is the second of my themed blogs for this year, taking a tour through the A - Z of resilience, wellbeing and effectiveness. 
 
They say that Beauty  is in the eye of the beholder, and I would certainly agree with that, since, as I have previously noted, everything we see is created by the way our brains interpret it for us. 

I suppose a good starting point would be that Beauty is the label we give to that feeling we get when we experience, with any of our senses, something that feels right, is full of harmony and proportion, that may evoke in us a sense of awe and wonder, and even make us emotional.

For example, I got all teary the other day when listening to a piano arrangement of Brahms' Lullaby. It wasn't overly clever or complicated, but clear, simple, harmonious and just so satisfying. 
 
I think this is important. When we do experience something beautiful, it takes us out of ourselves for a moment and reminds us that we are part of a larger whole. We can even feel transcendence.
 
Do you have enough Beauty in your life? How can you find even a little bit more? 
 
Then we have B for Beliefs - I don't mean your overall philosophical or spiritual take on life the universe and everything, although that's also relevant. I mean today the things we say to ourselves, 

  • 'I can't go for that promotion'
  • 'I'm not good enough' 
  • It's just the way I am'
  • I can't do maths'
I am sure you can think of plenty more along these lines! We pick up these beliefs uncritically, perhaps when we are very young, and if we really look at them, perhaps in discussion with another person, we may see that they are just not true. 
 
What could it mean for you, if what you thought wasn't actually true? 
  
Then finally, Bendiness is a good word to describe that quality of flexibility, adaptability, that we all need in our lives. I'm thinking of that phrase about how a plant stem that bends in the wind does not break, precisely because it bends. This thought can be helpful in lots of situations - for example when we give ourselves a hard time because we felt we didn't measure up, we could instead cut ourselves some slack and be as kind to ourselves as we probably would to a friend.
 
What do you think? Can you find one example of each of these Bs that appeals to you?  
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